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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • It depends hugely on what the therapy is trying to help. I personally find this sort of therapy completely useless. I needed active guidance and advice for what I needed to change and do.

    A good therapist adapts to what the patient needs. Sometimes that is space to vent. Sometimes it is a guiding hand. Sometimes it’s a (verbal) slap to the face to stop you running in panicking circles.



  • cynar@lemmy.worldtoFunny@sh.itjust.worksCall of Daddy
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    6 months ago

    Dad’s get frozen out of a lot of early parenting things. Anything that gives men the confidence to get more involved is good.

    E.g. my wife took our daughter to “sing and sign”. I decided to go along when I could. Out of 20 parents, I was the only non-mum. The next meetup, there were over 1/2 dozen dad’s, and a grandad. The instructor was surprised and pleased with this. All it took was them knowing they wouldn’t be the only dad there.

    If a “manly” bag gives them the confidence to break the norms, then good on them!


  • cynar@lemmy.worldtoFunny@sh.itjust.worksCall of Daddy
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    The carriers were one of the best buys we made for my daughter. She hated the pram, but loved being carried. With a carrier, she was close, and warm, while being involved in what we were doing. We could also get on with the basic tasks of life.

    FYI, the wraps, for smaller babies are also great. The baby cuddles you get are amazing. Also the smell of your own baby is like crack cocaine. It’s one of the best bonding tools out there.


  • cynar@lemmy.worldtoFunny@sh.itjust.worksCall of Daddy
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    6 months ago

    If it gets dad interacting, and bonding with the baby, it’s good for both of them.

    For most buyers, it will be a minor statement “I chose to be a hands on dad”. For certain demographics, that’s a big deal.

    I put it in the same category as bright pink tool kits. They look slightly silly, but get people involved.


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    To all the people putting guys down for using it, screw you. If it gets dad’s more involved in parenting, that’s categorically a good thing!

    Is it a cheap trick to boost some men’s confidence? Yes. But so what? If your wife has an overly girly nappy bag, an “ironic” overly manly one has a lot more effect than you might think.

    A lot of men are very insecure, when it comes to parenting. There is a massive amount of training and advice out there for mums, but VERY little for dads. We are left in a limbo of either being disconnected, and complained about, or bumbling and being complained about. It’s improving, but slowly.







  • cynar@lemmy.worldtoFunny@sh.itjust.worksMy personal hero
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    8 months ago

    If I know what I’m after, I can be in and out of IKEA in about 15 minutes. You can bypass the showroom entirely, and go directly to the market hall. There’s generally enough cross through routes to cut past 50% plus. The only downside is the lack of maps, you have to sort of memorise the layout first to not skip past what you’re looking for.